why does my wife dislike using insertable sex toy
My wife and I had only been married for a few months when we decided to try out an insertable sex dolls toy. We had heard great things about them from our friends and wanted to give it a try.
At first, my wife was surprisingly enthusiastic, eager to find out what all the fuss was about. We did some online research and finally we settled on a silicone insertable. However, upon first insertion my wife immediately frowned and stated she wasn’t thrilled about the insertion.
At this point, I took a step back and asked her what did she think we could do differently to make it better? And, to my surprise, she said nothing because, she wasn’t interested in using this kind of insertable toy.
I asked her what kind of toy would she like to try instead? But she didn’t know. I could tell she was really uncomfortable with the whole situation. And try as I might, my wife just really wasn’t into it. That’s when I started to wonder why she didn’t like it.
After a few days of thinking, I finally came up with a few possible reasons why she wasn’t comfortable using the toy. For one, there was a fear of the unknown, a feeling that she didn’t know what to expect and that she felt uncertain. Another was that she was scared of the toy’s size. I was sure she was overwhelmed by the toy’s size and she was intimated by the idea of using something so large. I also considered that she wanted a little more control and wasn’t ready to leave it to chance.
I also realized that my wife likely felt like she was not in control since the other person was doing the inserting, and it was likely making her feel insecure. I knew this experience was going to take some effort and willingness to let go for my wife, but I was willing to work with her every step of the way.
I decided to start slow and get her used to the idea of insertable toys. We went and sex dolls bought a few smaller ones that were easier to insert. Then I showed her how to use them and gave her the opportunity to take control. Of course, I was there for guidance and support, but she was able to get in control.
We started out slowly and methodically and eventually my wife got used to using insertable toys by practicing with the smaller ones. We also got more creative with our sex life and found different ways to balance both of our needs without one of us feeling overwhelmed.
We eventually found a great balance that worked for both of us. We opened ourselves up to different kinds of insertable toys, but we still have the same trust and respect for each other as we did when we first started. We’ve both learned a lot through this experience and it’s really expanded our view of sex and intimacy.